I am having the same issue with 13. Honestly the time it is costing me is definite reason to go back to 12 also.
I have noticed that turning on cabinet module lines, changing cabinets to framed instead of frameless has helped a bit, but not eliminated the problem. I watched the above mentioned video and those were things I tried.
If I zoom in very close I can sometimes force it to grab the cabinet instead of the door - but again only sometimes.
Any help would be greatly appreciated!
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